How many of you know a constant complainer? You know who I’m talking about, the person who complains about everything under the sun. “My boss yelled at me, my job is terrible, I’m so tired I worked an entire 8 hour shift today, I failed my test, the sky is blue (what nerve!), and did I mention my life sucks?” You get the point.
The average inspirational blog might tell you to appreciate what’s good in life, and not dwell on the rest. It will tell you that things will get better, and bad days only lead to good days. That may all be true, but it won’t get you to stop complaining. We are all guilty of having the occasional day when we are grumpy, irritable, and just need to get some things off our chest. That’s healthy! We all need to vent once in a while, but there is a difference between the occasional venter and the constant complainer.
Here’s the deal, you need to stop being a wimp. There will be times in your life that your boss yells at you, or you have a bad day at work. Maybe you won’t land the client that you’ve been working your butt off to get for months. Maybe that test you studied for all night long (let’s be real, you probably pulled an all-nighter instead of studying beforehand), well maybe you studied all the wrong things. And once something goes wrong, EVERYTHING goes wrong. It is like the snowball effect of bad luck! Who knew that one person could have so much bad luck?!
I’ve learned in my experience, and I’m sure anyone will agree with me, that failure makes you better as long as you handle it in the right way. There are two options:
1) You can mope around all you want. Continue to be a sissy and let your boss or a bad day get the best of you (Hint: This is the wrong choice).
2) Learn from it. Be stronger than you ever thought you could be. Wipe your tears, get off your butt, and take the initiative to ensure that you’ll succeed next time. Don’t focus on what went wrong, concentrate on what you are going to do to make it better.
Imagine how much time you spend complaining about things in your life. Does it get you anywhere? If you put that time to use being proactive, your possibilities are endless.
“A successful man is one who can lay a firm foundation with the bricks others have thrown at him.” –David Brinkley
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